July 27, 2010

‘Plain Jane’ advice for the girls

Posted in Between Us column, Entertainment, Relationships, Women at 6:55 pm by dinaheng

Any woman who’s ever had a secret crush on a guy and was too scared to tell him is going to love a new reality series called “Plain Jane.”

The show, scheduled to launch Wednesday, July 28 at 9 p.m. Eastern on The CW, features TV host and fashion columnist Louise Roe, who uses her dating savvy and sense of style each week to help transform a woman from the inside out and reveal her secret feelings to the man of her dreams.

Each “Jane” of the week receives a complete makeover with confidence-building exercises, and no one is more pleased with the results than Roe.

“I’ve bonded with all of them in different ways,” says Roe, who evaluates the girls’ appearances and helps them to change everything from haircut to wardrobe. “I say what I think they need, even if it’s a mustache wax.”

Roe, who grew up in Surrey, England, was last year’s co-host of E!’s Oscar Show, writes for Elle.com, and is the face of Adidas Originals sportswear collection. A statuesque 5 foot 9 inches (6 foot 3 inches in her Gucci heels), Roe is a style maven who exudes fun and confidence.

“The main factor for these girls is their fear of rejection,” Roe says, sitting in a Beverly Hills hotel. “Every single girl and guy watching has been rejected. It’s about breaking down pre-conceived ideas of ‘I can’t ask a guy out,’ or ‘I can’t walk in high heels.’ ”

She says many pre-conceived ideas come from childhood messages that we all receive. One of the “Janes” on the six-episode series, for example,  grew up in a very strict family, which affected the way she dresses.

Roe offers these simple tips for gals who’d like to better connect with guys:

* Wear bright colors. “You’re statistically more likely to be chatted up by a boy if you’re wearing reds,” she notes, smiling.

* Look at yourself in a full length mirror, and take in the whole picture. Are you standing up straight? “Posture is crucial to how an outfit looks,” Roe says.

* Use great accessories to accent whatever you’re wearing. “A cocktail ring’s my favorite,” she adds.

* Hold eye contact. “Believe that you’re good enough that he would want to talk with you,” Roe coaches. “When we’re nervous, we can tense up. So smile. This is supposed to be fun.”

As for pick-up lines, forget about them. Roe suggests starting conversations organically mid-stream, as though you already know the guy. The ease of saying, “This sure is a long line, isn’t it?” may elicit a more natural response than “So what do you do for a living,” out of context.

Expressing your feelings when you’re unsure about how someone feels about you isn’t easy. Every single woman (or single man, for that matter), should having a “coach” like Roe in her corner. Having a great friend to turn to for support and relationship advice makes the dating game, well… less lonely.

“I’m their wing girl,” Roe says. “If they get together with the man of their dreams, great. If not, hopefully, they’ll have had a life-changing moment through this show, and they’ll be fine.”

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2 Comments »

  1. seaorchids said,

    Interesting… although I never felt “plain” even though I was deathly afraid to talk to my high school crush for a long time, and same in middle school. I did learn posture later, and suppose it has helped with self-esteem, although I’ve got to admit, I’m a licensed cosmetologist now, established competetive former ballroom dance instructor, and house managed a theater and still I don’t believe those things combined could have made me talk to my crush… most recently, 4 months ago, I just had “momentum” and after being attracted to a guy for 12 years, just turned around and said “hello.” –my heart still racing as it would have been when I was 14 years old… all this “Plain Jane” stuff may help momentarily and on the outside create an illusion of inner confidence, but I doubt more. Interesting post though and great read!

    • dinaheng said,

      It’s funny how deeply we all hold that tiny voice inside that wonders, “Am I enough? Will he like me?” It doesn’t matter what our age is. We all want the other person to care as we do. Thanks for reading!


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